Penetrate The Moment

Penetrating the moment is a choice. One penetrates the moment by softening their mind and heart. With softness, comes easier acceptance of what is occurring in real time. Softness and acceptance becomes more natural with practice. The goal is not to ‘fix’ any given interaction. It’s about living in an alive, embodied present. This is … Continue reading Penetrate The Moment

Self-Care Reunites You With You

This is part of a series of excerpts from my forthcoming book. Self-care reunites you with what you value. Knowing your most important values makes choosing priorities and commitments more obvious. Put the big pieces in place and let everything else fill in around the ‘must do’ items. We can all improve at prioritizing self-care. … Continue reading Self-Care Reunites You With You

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Life Responds To How You Show Up

I felt elevated and moved by grace as the large horse pivoted and turned under my saddle. My hands held the soft leather reins loosely, yet with confidence, as the narrow and rough trail we’d been following snaked down a thickly forested slope. She and I had learned to trust one another over time and … Continue reading Life Responds To How You Show Up

Trading Truth For Comfort

Trading truth for comfort is a poor bargain. Living in the shallow end is suffering. Depth is where you’ll discover @TheRealYou. As a young man I suffered from lack of imagination of who and what I could be. I only envisioned a fuzzy, ill-defined future. It was not until about age 40 that I formulated … Continue reading Trading Truth For Comfort

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Safety in Intimacy

In my experience, the things that most allow a woman to trust and open to an intimate partner are love and safety. With these two elements in place, a woman may more fully open her heart, whether it be a one-time, long-term, committed belovedship or a marriage. With a trustable and loving partner she can … Continue reading Safety in Intimacy