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Journaling Sustains Intimacy With Self

Journaling helps sustain intimacy with self. Journaling can tap into a source of spirit water that bubbles up from the well of mystery that you are. Journaling is a powerful tool to uncover one’s honest motivations, fears and values. What might be uncovered if you journaled as a consistent, daily practice? Simply journaling random thoughts … Continue reading Journaling Sustains Intimacy With Self

Penetrate The Moment

Penetrating the moment is a choice. One penetrates the moment by softening their mind and heart. With softness, comes easier acceptance of what is occurring in real time. Softness and acceptance becomes more natural with practice. The goal is not to ‘fix’ any given interaction. It’s about living in an alive, embodied present. This is … Continue reading Penetrate The Moment

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Life Responds To How You Show Up

I felt elevated and moved by grace as the large horse pivoted and turned under my saddle. My hands held the soft leather reins loosely, yet with confidence, as the narrow and rough trail we’d been following snaked down a thickly forested slope. She and I had learned to trust one another over time and … Continue reading Life Responds To How You Show Up

You Must Be Present To Win

The following is an excerpt from my forthcoming book: Cultivating presence is cultivating personal power and vice-versa. You must be present to win. Honesty with self is power. Your body and the moment is where truth lives. Find your body and you find the moment. Find the moment and you win. The present moment is … Continue reading You Must Be Present To Win

The Art of Aural, Giving Good Phone

Good aural sex is both an art and a discipline. Voice tone has a direct effect on the frequency and passion in an intimate relationship. Even when not anticipating formal intimacy, you’re building or diminishing a love connection with each interaction by how you speak. Remember that foreplay is a constant, rather than an event. … Continue reading The Art of Aural, Giving Good Phone

Responding to Relationship Stress with an F word

The following is an excerpt from my soon-to-be released book: I’ve compiled a list of several ‘F’ words relevant to intimate relationship. They are: Fight, Flight/Fantasy, Faint/Fold, Freak/Flail, Freeze, Fix, Fun, Feel, Flow and F**k. Our teachers in school told us that humans essentially only have two main responses to stress (that being fight or … Continue reading Responding to Relationship Stress with an F word

Killing a Deer, Honoring a Woman

As a young man, I killed a deer. It was one of the most profound moments in my life. I did not take this act lightly in any way. My purpose was food for the upcoming winter. Whether directly or indirectly, we all ‘take’ life in order to live. A life of some kind was … Continue reading Killing a Deer, Honoring a Woman

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Safety in Intimacy

In my experience, the things that most allow a woman to trust and open to an intimate partner are love and safety. With these two elements in place, a woman may more fully open her heart, whether it be a one-time, long-term, committed belovedship or a marriage. With a trustable and loving partner she can … Continue reading Safety in Intimacy

The Peace of the Mountains

Long vistas of ridges beyond ridges and deep, steep roadless canyons. A hot, sunny, still and cloudless day under a seemingly endless blue sky. I was traveling along a dry, rocky and rough dirt track through the mountains. Somewhere past halfway to the destination I came across a spring-fed pool. Water sheeted down a short … Continue reading The Peace of the Mountains

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Meeting Your Beloved: A Pre-flight Checklist

Before coming together with your beloved intimate partner, consider taking an extra moment to feel into your depths and get more centered. Feel your role in the relationship. This is a way to consciously connect with yourself in preparation for loving another. I created a ‘Pre-flight Checklist’ for my personal use that you might find value … Continue reading Meeting Your Beloved: A Pre-flight Checklist

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Become An Expert In Loving Your Woman

Do you want to be deeply happy with each other? Do you want your life to be guided and moved by love? A good way to increase loving contentment is to become an expert in loving your woman. The goal is not to be an expert on any woman or all women, but this very … Continue reading Become An Expert In Loving Your Woman

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Guiding Principles for Partnership

It is said that true honesty is not about telling someone else what you think of them, but being honest about your own motivations. Every once in a while I come across a statement that describes how I want my intimate relationship to look and feel. Here are some of the best: Partnership Guiding Principles … Continue reading Guiding Principles for Partnership

Turn a Hug into a Magic Embrace

Who doesn’t love sharing a hug with an intimate partner? A loving hug can bring you both more in tune simply by placing your bodies together. Ideally, all your hugs feel energetically-clean with no sense of obligation to do more. You may just allow the loving touch to be a renewing contact and, of course, … Continue reading Turn a Hug into a Magic Embrace

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How Archery Skills Transfer To Relationship

Don’t rush and don’t over-clench, slightly change position to find “home.” Be intentional and pure of purpose. Stay aware of your breath and feel how all comes from your center. When you let go, do so cleanly and without regret. Are these the words of a tantra instructor or yoga teacher? They could be, but … Continue reading How Archery Skills Transfer To Relationship

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Can You Revel In A Kiss?

We’re all familiar with alternate giving when it involves foot rubs, massage or more intimate touch. But, where is the rule that we always have to kiss simultaneously? As a love coach, I often encourage people to incorporate alternate kissing into their sex play. Imagine your lover gently, slowly, sweetly kissing your heart, neck, face … Continue reading Can You Revel In A Kiss?