The Art of Aural, Giving Good Phone

Good aural sex is both an art and a discipline. Voice tone has a direct effect on the frequency and passion in an intimate relationship. Even when not anticipating formal intimacy, you’re building or diminishing a love connection with each interaction by how you speak. Remember that foreplay is a constant, rather than an event. … Continue reading The Art of Aural, Giving Good Phone

Responding to Relationship Stress with an F word

The following is an excerpt from my soon-to-be released book: I’ve compiled a list of several ‘F’ words relevant to intimate relationship. They are: Fight, Flight/Fantasy, Faint/Fold, Freak/Flail, Freeze, Fix, Fun, Feel, Flow and F**k. Our teachers in school told us that humans essentially only have two main responses to stress (that being fight or … Continue reading Responding to Relationship Stress with an F word

Killing a Deer, Honoring a Woman

As a young man, I killed a deer. It was one of the most profound moments in my life. I did not take this act lightly in any way. My purpose was food for the upcoming winter. Whether directly or indirectly, we all ‘take’ life in order to live. A life of some kind was … Continue reading Killing a Deer, Honoring a Woman

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Safety in Intimacy

In my experience, the things that most allow a woman to trust and open to an intimate partner are love and safety. With these two elements in place, a woman may more fully open her heart, whether it be a one-time, long-term, committed belovedship or a marriage. With a trustable and loving partner she can … Continue reading Safety in Intimacy

The Peace of the Mountains

Long vistas of ridges beyond ridges and deep, steep roadless canyons. A hot, sunny, still and cloudless day under a seemingly endless blue sky. I was traveling along a dry, rocky and rough dirt track through the mountains. Somewhere past halfway to the destination I came across a spring-fed pool. Water sheeted down a short … Continue reading The Peace of the Mountains

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Meeting Your Beloved: A Pre-flight Checklist

Before coming together with your beloved intimate partner, consider taking an extra moment to feel into your depths and get more centered. Feel your role in the relationship. This is a way to consciously connect with yourself in preparation for loving another. I created a ‘Pre-flight Checklist’ for my personal use that you might find value … Continue reading Meeting Your Beloved: A Pre-flight Checklist

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Become An Expert In Loving Your Woman

Do you want to be deeply happy with each other? Do you want your life to be guided and moved by love? A good way to increase loving contentment is to become an expert in loving your woman. The goal is not to be an expert on any woman or all women, but this very … Continue reading Become An Expert In Loving Your Woman

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Guiding Principles for Partnership

It is said that true honesty is not about telling someone else what you think of them, but being honest about your own motivations. Every once in a while I come across a statement that describes how I want my intimate relationship to look and feel. Here are some of the best: Partnership Guiding Principles … Continue reading Guiding Principles for Partnership

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How Archery Skills Transfer To Relationship

Don’t rush and don’t over-clench, slightly change position to find “home.” Be intentional and pure of purpose. Stay aware of your breath and feel how all comes from your center. When you let go, do so cleanly and without regret. Are these the words of a tantra instructor or yoga teacher? They could be, but … Continue reading How Archery Skills Transfer To Relationship

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Be With Her

How to be with your chosen woman when you’re attention has been drawn to another? Simply give her your presence. Just be with your woman when you’re with her. Really be with her. Show up for yourself and her when you’re together. She is ever-changing and a source of wonder if you choose the intimacy … Continue reading Be With Her

Today Is The Best Day Of My Life

Other days have held more pleasure or excitement or closeness or more joy or accomplishment. There have been days in my life that were filled with wonder and adventure or more ease and connectedness than today. This day stands as the best simply because I am living it now. All previous days whether amazing or … Continue reading Today Is The Best Day Of My Life

When I Notice Another Woman

After my article “When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head” the question was raised:  How do you be with your chosen woman’s feelings when you obviously notice another woman? My advice is to be really with your woman when you’re with her. Give her your 100% when you're together. Let her know how important she … Continue reading When I Notice Another Woman

He Loves Me (or not)

How To Tell if Your Man Loves You? Recently, I was asked this question and I quickly thought of a couple examples. Here's a longer answer after giving the question more thought. The average woman is much more sensitive to energy than the average man and she can depend on her intuition to guide her first. … Continue reading He Loves Me (or not)