Good aural sex is both an art and a discipline. Voice tone has a direct effect on the frequency and passion in an intimate relationship. Even when not anticipating formal intimacy, you’re building or diminishing a love connection with each interaction by how you speak. Remember that foreplay is a constant, rather than an event.Continue reading “The Art of Aural, Giving Good Phone”
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Responding to Relationship Stress with an F word
The following is an excerpt from my soon-to-be released book: I’ve compiled a list of several ‘F’ words relevant to intimate relationship. They are: Fight, Flight/Fantasy, Faint/Fold, Freak/Flail, Freeze, Fix, Fun, Feel, Flow and F**k. Our teachers in school told us that humans essentially only have two main responses to stress (that being fight orContinue reading “Responding to Relationship Stress with an F word”
Killing a Deer, Honoring a Woman
As a young man, I killed a deer. It was one of the most profound moments in my life. I did not take this act lightly in any way. My purpose was food for the upcoming winter. Whether directly or indirectly, we all ‘take’ life in order to live. A life of some kind wasContinue reading “Killing a Deer, Honoring a Woman”
Safety in Intimacy
In my experience, the things that most allow a woman to trust and open to an intimate partner are love and safety. With these two elements in place, a woman may more fully open her heart, whether it be a one-time, long-term, committed belovedship or a marriage. With a trustable and loving partner she canContinue reading “Safety in Intimacy”
The Peace of the Mountains
Long vistas of ridges beyond ridges and deep, steep roadless canyons. A hot, sunny, still and cloudless day under a seemingly endless blue sky. I was traveling along a dry, rocky and rough dirt track through the mountains. Somewhere past halfway to the destination I came across a spring-fed pool. Water sheeted down a shortContinue reading “The Peace of the Mountains”
Meeting Your Beloved: A Pre-flight Checklist
Before coming together with your beloved intimate partner, consider taking an extra moment to feel into your depths and get more centered. Feel your role in the relationship. This is a way to consciously connect with yourself in preparation for loving another. I created a ‘Pre-flight Checklist’ for my personal use that you might find valueContinue reading “Meeting Your Beloved: A Pre-flight Checklist”
Become An Expert In Loving Your Woman
Do you want to be deeply happy with each other? Do you want your life to be guided and moved by love? A good way to increase loving contentment is to become an expert in loving your woman. The goal is not to be an expert on any woman or all women, but this veryContinue reading “Become An Expert In Loving Your Woman”
Guiding Principles for Partnership
It is said that true honesty is not about telling someone else what you think of them, but being honest about your own motivations. Every once in a while I come across a statement that describes how I want my intimate relationship to look and feel. Here are some of the best: Partnership Guiding PrinciplesContinue reading “Guiding Principles for Partnership”
How Archery Skills Transfer To Relationship
Don’t rush and don’t over-clench, slightly change position to find “home.” Be intentional and pure of purpose. Stay aware of your breath and feel how all comes from your center. When you let go, do so cleanly and without regret. Are these the words of a tantra instructor or yoga teacher? They could be, butContinue reading “How Archery Skills Transfer To Relationship”
Be With Her
How to be with your chosen woman when you’re attention has been drawn to another? Simply give her your presence. Just be with your woman when you’re with her. Really be with her. Show up for yourself and her when you’re together. She is ever-changing and a source of wonder if you choose the intimacyContinue reading “Be With Her”
Today Is The Best Day Of My Life
Other days have held more pleasure or excitement or closeness or more joy or accomplishment. There have been days in my life that were filled with wonder and adventure or more ease and connectedness than today. This day stands as the best simply because I am living it now. All previous days whether amazing orContinue reading “Today Is The Best Day Of My Life”
When I Notice Another Woman
After my article “When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head” the question was raised: How do you be with your chosen woman’s feelings when you obviously notice another woman? My advice is to be really with your woman when you’re with her. Give her your 100% when you’re together. Let her know how important sheContinue reading “When I Notice Another Woman”
He Loves Me (or not)
How To Tell if Your Man Loves You? Recently, I was asked this question and I quickly thought of a couple examples. Here’s a longer answer after giving the question more thought. The average woman is much more sensitive to energy than the average man and she can depend on her intuition to guide her first.Continue reading “He Loves Me (or not)”