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Journaling Sustains Intimacy With Self

Journaling helps sustain intimacy with self. Journaling can tap into a source of spirit water that bubbles up from the well of mystery that you are. Journaling is a powerful tool to uncover one’s honest motivations, fears and values. What might be uncovered if you journaled as a consistent, daily practice? Simply journaling random thoughts … Continue reading Journaling Sustains Intimacy With Self

Penetrate The Moment

Penetrating the moment is a choice. One penetrates the moment by softening their mind and heart. With softness, comes easier acceptance of what is occurring in real time. Softness and acceptance becomes more natural with practice. The goal is not to ‘fix’ any given interaction. It’s about living in an alive, embodied present. This is … Continue reading Penetrate The Moment

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Life Responds To How You Show Up

I felt elevated and moved by grace as the large horse pivoted and turned under my saddle. My hands held the soft leather reins loosely, yet with confidence, as the narrow and rough trail we’d been following snaked down a thickly forested slope. She and I had learned to trust one another over time and … Continue reading Life Responds To How You Show Up

Trading Truth For Comfort

Trading truth for comfort is a poor bargain. Living in the shallow end is suffering. Depth is where you’ll discover @TheRealYou. As a young man I suffered from lack of imagination of who and what I could be. I only envisioned a fuzzy, ill-defined future. It was not until about age 40 that I formulated … Continue reading Trading Truth For Comfort

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I Shouldn’t Have Survived the Glacier Crossing

I shouldn’t have survived the mile-wide Kahiltna Glacier crossing. Our small group of three was traveling fast to avoid being caught on the ice field in the developing twilight and thickening ground fog. I had stopped to rest and now my two companions were out of earshot. I yelled for them to help orient me, … Continue reading I Shouldn’t Have Survived the Glacier Crossing

Stop Resisting and Embrace What You Fear

It was a hot day in the Pine Barrens and a fast-moving, spring-fed creek formed a deep pool near where our group rested. The crystal-clear water was tantalizing, but the chilly water temperature was daunting. No one was getting into the water, but I made a decision to get to know cold even though I … Continue reading Stop Resisting and Embrace What You Fear

You Must Be Present To Win

The following is an excerpt from my forthcoming book: Cultivating presence is cultivating personal power and vice-versa. You must be present to win. Honesty with self is power. Your body and the moment is where truth lives. Find your body and you find the moment. Find the moment and you win. The present moment is … Continue reading You Must Be Present To Win

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Can You Revel In A Kiss?

We’re all familiar with alternate giving when it involves foot rubs, massage or more intimate touch. But, where is the rule that we always have to kiss simultaneously? As a love coach, I often encourage people to incorporate alternate kissing into their sex play. Imagine your lover gently, slowly, sweetly kissing your heart, neck, face … Continue reading Can You Revel In A Kiss?

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When Is Sex Tantric?

There are innumerable definitions of tantra and tantric sex. Some people say that “neo-tantra” is neither new or tantra. Methinks they are both right and wrong. I present my definition to you here. I consider that sex is not tantric of itself. For me, tantra is an attitude and awareness of being fully present to … Continue reading When Is Sex Tantric?

Today Is The Best Day Of My Life

Other days have held more pleasure or excitement or closeness or more joy or accomplishment. There have been days in my life that were filled with wonder and adventure or more ease and connectedness than today. This day stands as the best simply because I am living it now. All previous days whether amazing or … Continue reading Today Is The Best Day Of My Life