Journaling helps sustain intimacy with self. Journaling can tap into a source of spirit water that bubbles up from the well of mystery that you are. Journaling is a powerful tool to uncover one’s honest motivations, fears and values. What might be uncovered if you journaled as a consistent, daily practice? Simply journaling random thoughts … Continue reading Journaling Sustains Intimacy With Self
Penetrating the moment is a choice. One penetrates the moment by softening their mind and heart. With softness, comes easier acceptance of what is occurring in real time. Softness and acceptance becomes more natural with practice. The goal is not to ‘fix’ any given interaction. It’s about living in an alive, embodied present. This is … Continue reading Penetrate The Moment
This is part of a series of excerpts from my forthcoming book. Self-care reunites you with what you value. Knowing your most important values makes choosing priorities and commitments more obvious. Put the big pieces in place and let everything else fill in around the ‘must do’ items. We can all improve at prioritizing self-care. … Continue reading Self-Care Reunites You With You
I felt elevated and moved by grace as the large horse pivoted and turned under my saddle. My hands held the soft leather reins loosely, yet with confidence, as the narrow and rough trail we’d been following snaked down a thickly forested slope. She and I had learned to trust one another over time and … Continue reading Life Responds To How You Show Up
The following is an excerpt from my forthcoming book: Cultivating presence is cultivating personal power and vice-versa. You must be present to win. Honesty with self is power. Your body and the moment is where truth lives. Find your body and you find the moment. Find the moment and you win. The present moment is … Continue reading You Must Be Present To Win
Good aural sex is both an art and a discipline. Voice tone has a direct effect on the frequency and passion in an intimate relationship. Even when not anticipating formal intimacy, you’re building or diminishing a love connection with each interaction by how you speak. Remember that foreplay is a constant, rather than an event. … Continue reading The Art of Aural, Giving Good Phone
The following is an excerpt from my soon-to-be released book: I’ve compiled a list of several ‘F’ words relevant to intimate relationship. They are: Fight, Flight/Fantasy, Faint/Fold, Freak/Flail, Freeze, Fix, Fun, Feel, Flow and F**k. Our teachers in school told us that humans essentially only have two main responses to stress (that being fight or … Continue reading Responding to Relationship Stress with an F word
As a young man, I killed a deer. It was one of the most profound moments in my life. I did not take this act lightly in any way. My purpose was food for the upcoming winter. Whether directly or indirectly, we all ‘take’ life in order to live. A life of some kind was … Continue reading Killing a Deer, Honoring a Woman
In my experience, the things that most allow a woman to trust and open to an intimate partner are love and safety. With these two elements in place, a woman may more fully open her heart, whether it be a one-time, long-term, committed belovedship or a marriage. With a trustable and loving partner she can … Continue reading Safety in Intimacy
Long vistas of ridges beyond ridges and deep, steep roadless canyons. A hot, sunny, still and cloudless day under a seemingly endless blue sky. I was traveling along a dry, rocky and rough dirt track through the mountains. Somewhere past halfway to the destination I came across a spring-fed pool. Water sheeted down a short … Continue reading The Peace of the Mountains
Before coming together with your beloved intimate partner, consider taking an extra moment to feel into your depths and get more centered. Feel your role in the relationship. This is a way to consciously connect with yourself in preparation for loving another. I created a ‘Pre-flight Checklist’ for my personal use that you might find value … Continue reading Meeting Your Beloved: A Pre-flight Checklist
Do you want to be deeply happy with each other? Do you want your life to be guided and moved by love? A good way to increase loving contentment is to become an expert in loving your woman. The goal is not to be an expert on any woman or all women, but this very … Continue reading Become An Expert In Loving Your Woman
It is said that true honesty is not about telling someone else what you think of them, but being honest about your own motivations. Every once in a while I come across a statement that describes how I want my intimate relationship to look and feel. Here are some of the best: Partnership Guiding Principles … Continue reading Guiding Principles for Partnership
Who doesn’t love sharing a hug with an intimate partner? A loving hug can bring you both more in tune simply by placing your bodies together. Ideally, all your hugs feel energetically-clean with no sense of obligation to do more. You may just allow the loving touch to be a renewing contact and, of course, … Continue reading Turn a Hug into a Magic Embrace
Don’t rush and don’t over-clench, slightly change position to find “home.” Be intentional and pure of purpose. Stay aware of your breath and feel how all comes from your center. When you let go, do so cleanly and without regret. Are these the words of a tantra instructor or yoga teacher? They could be, but … Continue reading How Archery Skills Transfer To Relationship
We’re all familiar with alternate giving when it involves foot rubs, massage or more intimate touch. But, where is the rule that we always have to kiss simultaneously? As a love coach, I often encourage people to incorporate alternate kissing into their sex play. Imagine your lover gently, slowly, sweetly kissing your heart, neck, face … Continue reading Can You Revel In A Kiss?
Our energy doesn't end at our skin. Most people are familiar with hands-on energetic touch as a healing modality and we expect to feel energy in our bodies during a massage session. If we accept that energy is transmitted from our fingertips then it should be easy to realize that energy is transmitted by touch … Continue reading How Deep Can You Glow?
Horse. I felt elevated and moved as if by grace as the large horse pivoted and turned under my saddle. Her body and mind were in tune with my intention as we negotiated a hillside. The narrow and rough trail we had been following snaked down a forested canyon slope. My hands held the soft … Continue reading Horses, Tango, Intimacy
Smiles come easily and her eyes shine with light. She speaks her feelings directly and with astuteness. Her posture transmits confidence and dignity. Her beauty and her personal power are integrated. People comment that there’s a radiance or “glow” about her. Perhaps it is a result deepening into self-acceptance and choosing to live as love. … Continue reading Beauty of an Awakened Woman
How to be with your chosen woman when you’re attention has been drawn to another? Simply give her your presence. Just be with your woman when you’re with her. Really be with her. Show up for yourself and her when you’re together. She is ever-changing and a source of wonder if you choose the intimacy … Continue reading Be With Her
There are innumerable definitions of tantra and tantric sex. Some people say that “neo-tantra” is neither new or tantra. Methinks they are both right and wrong. I present my definition to you here. I consider that sex is not tantric of itself. For me, tantra is an attitude and awareness of being fully present to … Continue reading When Is Sex Tantric?
There is a lot to know with tantric sex, but this article is enough for you to begin transforming your lovemaking into a tantric journey. For instruction in specific methods such as ‘the pull / press / PC squeeze’, etc. I recommend finding a tantra class or private instruction with a tantric practitioner (daka or … Continue reading Tantric Sex ~ the easy way
This is simply one way to navigate a "breakup". I do not mean to imply this is the best method for everyone. My intimate partner and I recently shifted into being non-sexual friends and allies. I honor truth and depth and openness and, knowing this, my woman came to me with her difficult truth. She … Continue reading Conscious Relationship Ending